The Weight of Fear: Moving, Selling, and The Illusion of ‘Safety’

Currently, I’m in the process of moving, which means I’m selling items on Facebook Marketplace. People send messages asking if something is available. I don’t waste time. I send them a quick, direct response:

“Yes. Cash only. First come, first serve. I don't do pleasantries. You come, pick up your item, check out the apartment for the other things listed as well as the things that are Free, pay, and leave.”

I don’t wait for them to confirm whether they’ll come or not—I immediately send my address, building number, and apartment number (4841 W 18th Ave Eugene OR 97402 Building 3 Apt #208). No hesitation.

Most people would pause here.

“But what about safety?”

“What if someone dangerous gets the address?”

“Shouldn’t you be more cautious?”

Why?

If an Uber driver takes you home, you don’t worry that they now know exactly where you live. If someone is buying something from you, they will get the address anyway. If someone wants to come and cause harm, then that was already written. If someone comes and buys something, then they were meant to. The outcome is not mine to control.

The illusion of ‘safety’ is what traps people in fear. They sit in their homes, double-checking locks, tiptoeing through life, convincing themselves that paranoia is wisdom. It’s not. It’s just paranoia. And paranoia only exists when you have something to hide or something weighing you down.

The Buyer, The Money, and The Open Door

A woman came today to buy dishware. She paid me $140 in cash. I took the money and left it sitting right there on the counter in plain view. While she went to her car to bring up boxes upstairs to pack the dishes, I placed half of the dishware on the counter for her, then, without a second thought, I told her:

“I’ll leave you to it.”

I went into my room and laid down.

The front door was open.

She could see everything. Two of my luggage bags were sitting in the open—my clothing inside, my 100% leather Turkish hat in plain view. A bag, sitting nearby, had over $1,400 in cash inside it. She didn’t know, but it was there.

Some people would see this as reckless. It’s not.

It’s strategy.

I handed her my business card before she left as a complimentary item.

Understanding Human Psychology: Why Fear Works Against You

What do people assume when they see someone who moves like this?

A woman walks into a home where the door is open, cash is sitting on the counter, and the owner of the place simply walks away and lays down in another room.

Does she think:

“Oh, I should steal something.”

Or does she think:

“Wait… who is this person? Why do they move like this?”

The moment someone sees confidence in motion—real confidence, not the fake kind built on posturing—they hesitate.The weight of their own uncertainty makes them move more carefully, not less. They become hyper-aware of their own actions. They don’t want to look suspicious, so they become more diligent in making sure they do nothing questionable.

This is what people don’t understand about fear.

Fear makes you a target.

Fear makes you think you have ‘so much to lose.’

Fear makes you second-guess, hesitate, give your power away before you even realize it.

Why do you think a dog is chill until it senses you’re scared.

I don’t move with fear because I have nothing to hide, nothing weighing me down. I don’t pretend to control what is already written.

If someone was meant to come and take something, they would. If not, they won’t. Simple.

The Problem With ‘Safety Culture’

People live trapped by invisible cages of their own making. They obsess over what ifs that never happen.

• “What if someone comes to steal?”

They will.

• “What if something bad happens?”

It must.

• “What if I lose everything?”

You should.

The truth?

You already lost the moment you let fear dictate your actions.

People who sit and play defense their entire lives never win anything.

They move like prey and wonder why they feel hunted.

I don’t live that way.

I move through the world like I’m meant to. Because I am.

This Is How I Move.

I’m selling my things because I’m moving. I’m posting them online. People are coming to pick them up.

I don’t worry about who is coming.

I don’t worry about what could happen.

I just move.

That’s the difference.

And it’s why most people won’t ever understand it.