Leaders in Costume: The Frauds Who Pretend to Lead

Leadership Is a Balancing Act—Not an Illusion of Control

A true leader knows they control nothing beyond their own choices. Everything else? It either aligns with precision, or it does not.

The precision of reality is not visible to us, because to see it, one would have to know everything about everything. And who knows everything? Only the one who created everything.

So, real leadership is not about control. It is a balancing act. That’s all it ever is. You do your absolute best—your real, honest, full best. Not the half-assed, “I kinda tried” version, but your full capacity.

And in this balancing act, getting it right counts double, because that’s all you could have done. You had nothing to do with the objective outcome—only with how well you aligned with precision.

Life itself is one big scale.

• The size of your scale? That depends on the weight of your responsibilities.

• The bigger the responsibility, the larger the scale, the more precise the balance must be.

• Every problem is just an imbalance.

• Every solution is a realignment.

If you fail to balance your scale, you fail as a leader. It’s that simple.

The Frauds Who Wear the Costume of Leadership

Now, let’s talk about the frauds.

The costumed leaders—those who wear the title, the suit, the name, but hold none of the weight.

They sit in high positions, talk about world problems, and then… do absolutely nothing.

And their favorite trick? Endless discussions.

They gather at summits, conferences, meetings—year after year, decade after decade—talking about world issues. They repeat the same nonsense, over and over, as if words alone will solve anything.

Then, they frame their stagnation as progress.

“Discussion is the first step to change.”

“We’re raising awareness.”

“At least we’re having the conversation.”

You’ve been having the conversation for thirty years.

At what point does the “first step” become blatant inaction?

True leaders see through the nonsense.

These frauds aren’t leading. They’re preserving their own comfort. They refuse to act, refuse to make real decisions, refuse to balance the scale.

And deep down, they know it. That’s why they feel guilt. That’s why they hide behind excuses, meetings, and feel-good words. That’s why they pretend problems are too complex to solve.

It’s not complex. They’re just cowards.

When Leaders Claim “It’s Too Complicated”—It’s a Lie

World hunger? Not complicated.

Peace? Not complicated.

Any fundamental, long-standing issue? Not complicated.

So why aren’t they solved?

Because the frauds who wear the leadership costume have no business being leaders.

If you cannot balance the scale, if you cannot execute solutions, then step down. Remove the costume. Take off the mask. Do something else.

Because real leadership is not for you.

The Illusion of Complexity Is a Cover for Incompetence

And yet, these fake leaders continue to act like problems are impossibly complex.

“We have to bring both sides together.”

“We have to consider the full scope of history.”

“We have to navigate political landscapes.”

Shut up.

The truth? You don’t want to solve the problem. You just want to sit in your costume, collect your benefits, and delay action indefinitely.

The proof?

Look at your so-called “professional” followers.

The ones who attend your summits, your events, your galas. The ones who walk up to you, pretending to care.

“How do we solve world hunger?” they ask, sipping champagne at a networking event.

You know what the real answer is?

Mind your business.

What are you going to do about billions of starving people? Nothing.

The only real answer?

Do your damn best in your sector.

• Align yourself.

• Do your absolute best.

• Let that ripple outward.

That’s it. That’s all anyone can do.

World hunger isn’t solved because the people in charge are liars.

• They cut corners in one area.

• They steal from another.

• They undercut this sector.

• They ignore that one.

Then, when everything falls apart, they stand around confused, pretending it’s some great unsolvable mystery.

It’s not. It’s mathematics.

If you shower some days, but not others, you’ll stink.

If you brush your teeth some weeks, but not others, you’ll rot.

If one vital organ stops working, you’ll die.

Yet, these frauds pretend like the world doesn’t work in systems, in precision.

They expect nature to align perfectly, but when it comes to human systems, they think they can operate in chaos, corruption, and imbalance—and suffer no consequences.

They lie to themselves the most.

They sit in their costumes, drinking their smoothies and cocktails, basking in their titles and fake importance, believing the world recognizes them as leaders.

But the world does not recognize frauds.

It only tolerates them until their time runs out.

The Reckoning Will Be Precise

One day, the weight of their fraud will collapse on them.

And when it does—when they scream under the pressure of their own lies, corruption, and cowardice—

They will finally see with full clarity.

They will see the truth of the criminal behavior they have engaged in.

And the label of “criminal” will be tattooed on their foreheads, forever.

While they walk, burning, in the fire of the disease they created for themselves.

The Worship of Science: The Greatest Fraud of the Modern Age

Real science is about observation, questioning, and continuous testing—not blind obedience to whatever gets published in a journal today and debunked tomorrow. The arrogance of believing that human understanding can dictate absolute universal truths is not just foolish—it’s dangerous.

The fundamental issue is excessive pride. People have mistaken science for revelation, and in doing so, they’ve stopped questioning. They treat it like a religion—except worse, because at least religion acknowledges a power greater than itself. But modern science worshippers? They pretend that their limited tools and limited minds hold the ultimate truth, when in reality, every so-called “truth” they claim is just a temporary patchwork of observations that will be overturned in a few decades.

This is why true scientists—real thinkers—always acknowledge their limitations. They don’t declare absolute facts. They say, “Based on current observations, this is what we suspect, but we must continue testing.” That’s the essence of real scientific integrity.

The Fraud of One-Size-Fits-All Thinking

Diet, exercise, even medicine—look anywhere, and the same mistake repeats itself.

The stupidity of assuming that what works for one set of people must work for all is beyond arrogant—it’s reckless. The human body, nature, the world itself—all operate on precision. Every tree, every animal, every cell in our bodies has variations, adaptations, and nuances. But instead of respecting that, these so-called “experts” slap a blanket statement on billions of people and expect no consequences? Madness.

And the worst part? People believe it. They love being told what to do so they don’t have to think. They cling to the false security of “expert advice” without question—because taking responsibility for their own lives? That’s too much work. So they just nod along, feeling “safe,” until 30 years later, they’re suffering the consequences of bad advice.

The Medical Industry & The Corruption of “Professionals”

Let’s talk about these fake professionals.

The real ones? They know their limits. They understand that the body, mind, and world are too complex for rigid, one-size-fits-all solutions.

But the arrogant ones—the ones who refuse to listen to new evidence because it threatens their egos? The ones who ignore real results from patients because it contradicts the nonsense they spent years memorizing? Those are the worst kind of criminals. Because they’re not just harming individuals—they’re corrupting entire systems, misleading entire populations, and making sure bad ideas continue to circulate because they refuse to admit they were wrong.

And it gets darker.

The pharmaceutical industry’s influence has turned so many doctors into nothing more than glorified salesmen. Pushing drugs not because they work, but because they were bribed to do it. That’s not just corruption—it’s organized deception at a massive scale. These people are literally selling suffering for profit, knowing full well that their “solutions” are often worse than the problem itself.

The Consequences Are Coming—And They’ll Be Precise

This world runs on precision. You don’t put out lies and expect to be paid back in peace. The frauds—fake scientists, arrogant doctors, corrupt professionals—might think they’re getting away with it now, but precision doesn’t forget. Every action, every lie, every manipulation has a cost. And that cost will come exactly when they least expect it.

The tragedy? So many people will suffer before that happens. So many blindly followed bad advice, put their trust in false authority, and were too lazy to question or seek truth for themselves. They will pay the price too.

But that’s the nature of the world.

You don’t always get to escape the consequences of ignorance.

Yet, even in that, every innocent victim will be fully compensated in the end.

And those who profited from the deception? Their reckoning is coming.

When it does, they won’t be able to talk their way out of it. Reality doesn’t negotiate.

The Truth? Own Your Choices.

At the end of the day, all we have is free will—anything beyond that, we will never have full control.

That’s why if you blindly follow anything without thinking, you don’t get to blame anyone else when the consequences come knocking. If you were too lazy to question, too gullible to challenge, too scared to take responsibility—then you own the result.

It doesn’t matter if “the expert” told you to do it. You chose to believe them without thought.

That’s why clarity is everything.

The real thinkers of this world? The real scientists, the real professionals, the real people who seek truth? They don’t follow blindly. They question everything.

And that’s the only way forward to clarity. Because all you truly have is free will.

Everything else must prove itself before you choose.

Because at the end of the day, the truth doesn’t care about your feelings, your ego, or your time investment.

It just is.

And those who refuse to align with it?

They will be crushed by it.

Religion Is Nothing But Faith

Let’s cut straight to it: religion is nothing but faith. That’s it. Yet people have spent centuries—centuries—trying to turn it into a shackle. A chain. A cage. They tell you how to live, how to worship, how to breathe, as though God gave them some extra brain or heart no one else has. They’re not prophets. They’re not messengers. Yet they claim to know everything God supposedly told them to tell you.

And in the process, they paint religion as this suffocating box, something people begin to associate with limitations, guilt, and a life devoid of joy. Is that the picture God gave us?

Here’s the truth: every single one of us is born with a compass. Strip a person of culture, language, and influence—put them alone in the middle of an ocean with nothing but a raft—and what happens? They look up. Every single one of us, no matter where we’re from or what we call it, instinctively recognizes the existence of God. We all do.

Now, if everything around us—the sun, the moon, the oceans, the forests—is mathematically precise, do you really think this world is some random accident? Do you think your actions don’t count? That you, specifically, are the exception to the rule?

Every single thing on this planet operates with precision. Even the tools we make, the tables we carve, the food we cook—without precision, they fall apart. And you think you’re out here living without consequence? Every breath, every action, every word—it all counts. Who the hell do you think you’re kidding?

WHO PUT THESE PEOPLE IN CHARGE?

Here’s the problem: there are people—lots of them—who claim they know exactly what God wants from you. They stand up, puff out their chests, and act like they’re the gatekeepers of heaven. They have the audacity to tell you what God supposedly said, adding things It didn’t, subtracting what It did, and twisting faith into a weapon.

They tell you the only way to connect with God is to sit in a mosque, church, temple, mountain, or synagogue all day long. They act like God didn’t design humanity to explore, innovate, and enjoy life. They want you to deny your humanity, suppress your natural emotional needs, and pretend you don’t care about love, beauty, fun, or sex when God gave us all proper pathways to fulfill these needs.

So, we deny our humanity?

Are they insane? You think the Creator of all things gave us this vast world, these capabilities, this imagination, only to demand we ignore it all and act like monks in the corner? You think the same God who made the beauty of the trees, the vastness of the oceans, and the laughter of children wants us to reject joy and creativity?

It’s delusion. Pure, insecure delusion.

FAITH IS SIMPLE

God made everything in this world mathematically precise. Do you think It made faith complicated? Do you think It created a world where only a select few understand what’s required while everyone else is doomed?

No. Faith is simple.

If you have faith, you’ll naturally seek God. It’s like hunger: if you know food exists, you’ll go find it. The same is true for faith. People crave God because we’re designed to. Even atheists, in moments of extreme hardship, cry out “Oh my God.” Even they instinctively call to something higher when they’re cornered.

This is why religion is nothing but faith because it’s only that very faith that will lead you to what God asks you to do. Don’t you see how if you know God through faith, you will naturally be guided towards what you are supposed to do (i.e., religion)? And don’t you see how when you get to that religion, you will know it’s the truth the same way you know being kind is good and stealing is wrong? Doesn’t it click for you that when you find that religion, it will be as mathematically precise as everything around you, from nature to your own body’s precision? Do you not know that if there is anything even remotely not precise about a religion, it can not be who it claims to be from (i.e., God)? It’s all mathematical precision because nothing in this world works outside of complete precision. We expect precision from an engineer, yet we deny the fact that the same complete precision, first and foremost, applies to the One who designed that very engineer’s hands. You are not blind, and your brain was not given to you for someone else to use on your behalf.

You don’t need someone else’s opinion or approval to connect with God. You’ve been given a brain. Use it.

RELIGION IS FOR YOU, NOT GOD

Let’s get the next thing clear: God doesn’t need your worship. God doesn’t need anything. Religion isn’t for It—it’s for you. Prayer, fasting, kindness, and charity—they’re not requirements to stroke God’s ego. They’re tools to keep you grounded, balanced, and aligned in a world full of distractions caused by many chaos-loving individuals.

These acts of worship are not for God—they’re for you. God is perfect, by definition. The essence of being God is perfection. If there was any imperfection, any need—whether for food, drink, sleep, worship, etc.—it would cease to be God. These needs are deficiencies, and deficiencies mean imperfection.

Imperfection means a lack in precision. Everything God does is mathematically precise. For something to operate with such perfect precision, it must come from something flawless. Humanity, as imperfect as we are, has survived and thrived for thousands of generations because of this divine precision even with all our bloodshed and nonsense.

Now, consider this: when a manufacturer creates a product, they include a manual, a guide to ensure it operates at its best. The same applies to us. God, as our manufacturer, knows exactly how we function at our best. That’s why It gave us acts of worship—not as a demand, but as a manual for optimal living. Our internal compass aligns with this naturally.

When we see someone doing what’s right—showing kindness, praying, fasting, or giving to others—something inside us resonates. We know it’s right. Similarly, when we stray from that path or do the opposite, our internal compass sends out a signal: we feel guilt, discomfort, or unease. That’s the proof. These acts of worship aren’t arbitrary; they’re designed to keep us aligned, grounded, and balanced in a world full of chaos.

And that’s why we’re called to stick to this guidance—not because God needs it, but because we do. When we’re in distress, when life places us in impossible situations, we instinctively look up. Why? Because in those moments, we know that only something greater, something perfect, can solve what we cannot. That’s why faith matters. It’s the anchor to our purpose and the alignment to our best selves.

The audacity of people to act like God is sitting there, waiting to strike lightning down on you because you missed a prayer or didn’t make it to church this week. You think God, who made wild beasts merciful to their young, is going to annihilate you for one mistake? Really?

We are designed to make mistakes. We’re the only creatures on this planet with free will, and that means we’re going to get it wrong sometimes. All God asks is that we do our best. Do you not see that it’s even impossible to do anything but your best? Therefore, you stick to that. Your best.

STOP LYING TO YOURSELF

I swear by the One who made me, you, all of us, and everything beyond what we can see that as long as you’re always truly honest, you will never go wrong. Stop lying—to yourself and to others. You know when you’re doing something wrong. Your body knows. Your conscience knows. Even if you lie to the world, your body reacts. Your guilt eats at you. Your posture gives you away. Your own being doesn’t let you rest.

Honesty doesn’t mean getting the objective reality right; it means doing your best with the knowledge you have. If two people look at the same thing and one swears it’s A while the other swears it’s B, they’ll both be judged on their honesty, not the objective truth.

THE AUDACITY OF RELIGION’S GATEKEEPERS

These so-called religious people are out here creating rules God never made, claiming authority It never gave them. They cloak themselves in religiosity, not out of faith, but out of insecurity. They’ve failed in other areas of life and now cling to religion to feel superior.

True religious people don’t do this. They stick to what God actually said. They don’t add, subtract, or twist Its words. They recognize their own humanity, their limitations, and their flaws. They also know how much they don’t know and the complexities and depths of life that they can’t fully see.

But these fake gatekeepers? They act like religion is about control. They make people associate faith with guilt and shame. They turn people away from God by making faith feel suffocating instead of liberating, and then they have the guts to turn around, wondering why people are turning away from faith.

ONE OF THE MOST DANGEROUS GATEKEEPERS: THE PERFORMATIVE RELIGIOUS PERSON

Here’s the thing about some of the most dangerous so-called religious gatekeepers: they are the ones who appear the most religious on the outside. They are the ones who do everything right—everything that seems “extra religious.” From their dress, their actions, their speech, and even their apparent devotion, they look like servants of God. On the surface, it’s all perfect. If you had to bet everything you had, you would bet that these people are religious and genuine. And yet, deep down, you feel something is wrong. Something within you pulls you away from them.

This feeling is not a coincidence. You might not be able to pinpoint it, but your body is signaling to you. It’s telling you something is off. Why? Because your body does not lie. It’s as honest as your thoughts, actions, and conscience. When you are truly honest, even in your own mind, you don’t lie. You don’t deceive even when no one is watching. The same applies to those who are truly genuine in their faith—they act with sincerity, even in private. But those people who look so righteous on the outside? They are not genuine.

They are pretending—not for you solely, but for God. They perform acts of religiosity, trying to convince God they are righteous. They are trying to convince God that they’re doing the right thing, even though deep down, they know they’re faking it. Their insecurity drives them to do more and more, hoping that by sheer volume of “good” deeds, they’ll trick God into thinking they are genuine. But God sees their hearts. And they know it.

Their goal isn’t to truly embody the faith. It’s to appear as though they do. And this is why you may feel repelled by them. Your heart instinctively recognizes that they are not real. Their actions don’t align with the truth. They want you to believe that you need to do so much extra—like they do—to be loved by God. They want you to follow their every move so that they can feel better about themselves, so they won’t feel the weight of their own lies.

They may try to make you feel guilty for not following them, for not doing what they’re doing. But here’s the truth: you are not the hypocrite. They are. They are the ones faking it, pretending to be honest, while lying to themselves and to God. Their self-deception makes them feel more secure, and they want to drag you into that lie with them.

They are like any insecure person—all of whom have the same disease, but different symptoms because insecurity is nothing but falsehood, disguised in jagged lines trying to hide it.

If you’re questioning yourself, wondering if you’re the hypocrite, it means you are not. The true hypocrite never questions their own hypocrisy. A true hypocrite doesn’t sit around wondering if they’re faking it—they’re already caught up in their falsehoods. They are too busy pretending to even ask the question. But you? You question it, because you know the truth. You are not the hypocrite—they are. So don’t let them fool you.

Here’s a tip from me to you personally: the quickest way to recognize these people is by paying close attention to their reactions when they know you or someone else who doesn’t listen to them is suffering. They become happy—smiling even— because your suffering makes them feel like they have “evidence” that their hypocrisy is the correct way.

When you genuinely care about being authentic, that’s not hypocrisy—it’s integrity. And your ability to see through the performance of others is a sign that you are aligned with truth. Keep trusting your the truth, keep questioning the illusions, and keep walking the path of sincerity. The more you stay aligned with what you know to be true, the clearer your path will become.

ENDING IT

Stop listening to these people. Stop letting them tell you how to connect with the Creator. God made you with an internal compass. You know the truth when you hear it. You know what’s right when you see it. You definitely know what’s wrong.

Do your best. Be honest. Live with integrity. And don’t let anyone make you feel like you’re less than you are because you’re not living up to their opinion of faith.

Refusing To Endure The Pain

Pain is a part of life. Tests and pressure come to everyone, yet we seem to think we can escape them. Many people refuse to endure pain, distracting themselves, delaying the inevitable, or outright denying the reality staring them in the face. But life, in its precision, does not allow anyone to escape what is necessary. If you choose to ignore the fire in your path, life will corner you into walking through it anyway—no padding, no distractions, no excuses.

And when that happens, two outcomes are possible: refinement or resistance.

The Fire in the Path

Imagine walking down a road and being confronted by a fire. There’s no detour, no alternate route—your only way forward is through it. Instead of facing the fire, most people stop to fidget with doorknobs on the side, look for distractions, or even pretend the fire isn’t there. But deep down, they know.

We all know. We know the exact things we need to face, the pain we must endure, and the challenges we have the strength to overcome. Yet, we spend our time lying to ourselves and pretending. We convince ourselves that we “can’t handle it,” even though the reality is clear: if we truly couldn’t handle it, we wouldn’t even be here to face it. The body itself is designed to shut down when something becomes unbearable—fainting, heart attacks, comas, even death occur when limits are reached. If you’re still standing, you can bear it.

So, why delay the inevitable? Why not go through the fire when you know it’s the only option?

Two Choices: Refinement or Resistance

When life corners you, when the fire is undeniable, you have two choices: you either endure the pain, or you resist it.

1. Refinement

The person who chooses refinement acknowledges the pain, feels it fully, and navigates it to the best of their ability. They put their tail between their legs, humble themselves, and move forward through the fire. Is it easy? Of course not. Pain isn’t a walk in the park. But the one who chooses refinement doesn’t waste time with excuses or distractions—they act.

This is like grief. When someone loses a loved one, they may initially deny the reality. But eventually, the emotions catch up. Those who face the grief, seek support, and navigate it will emerge stronger. They grow. They learn. They endure.

The key is this: they do what they can with what they have in the moment. Whether it’s seeking counseling, talking to someone, or simply sitting with the pain, they navigate step by step. They don’t demand answers or certainty. They just keep moving.

2. Resistance

Then there’s the person who resists. They see the truth, but they deny it. They act arrogantly, saying, “Why should I go through this? I don’t need to.” They demand answers and refuse to take the steps necessary to grow.

This arrogance is a refusal to be refined. It’s a rejection of reality, even when all the signs—past experiences, universal truths, and personal intuition—make it clear that they must move forward.

Imagine someone running a business, knowing they need to work 12 hours a day for the next five years to succeed in a projected billion-dollar industry. The potential is obvious, the path is clear, and the evidence supports the effort. But they say, “Why should I give 12 hours a day? I don’t care if it’s worth billions. I refuse.”

That’s arrogance in action: denying truth when it’s staring you in the face.

Delaying the Pain Makes It Worse

The longer you delay facing reality, the worse it becomes. Life has a way of removing distractions and padding until you’re forced into a corner. If you resist the fire now, you’ll still face it later, but it will be harsher and more difficult.

Take relationships, for example. Many people stay in bad relationships, knowing full well they’re doomed. They tell themselves, “Maybe things will get better,” or, “What will people think if I leave?” These flimsy excuses keep them trapped until the other person leaves or something catastrophic happens. Then, they’re left with not only the pain of the breakup but also the regret of wasted years, shattered self-esteem, and the difficulty of rebuilding a foundation later in life.

And the older you get, the harder it becomes. Youth gives you resilience—less cemented foundations and the flexibility to rebuild. Many young people get fooled by this, thinking they are invincible because of it. But as time passes, your foundations harden like bricks encased in cement. Dismantling them, cracking them open, and replacing them becomes exponentially harder with age. The worst part? Life doesn’t stop for you to catch up. Responsibilities continue to pile up, and when the fire finally arrives, you’ll have to face it while juggling everything else. For those willing to endure it then, it often means drastically downsizing their lives just to survive the process. For those who refuse, it can lead to spiraling into depression or even suicide, may we never come to that. And in the end, they exist but never truly live—trapped in a state of suffering, not alive but not dead.

If you know something isn’t right—whether it’s a relationship, a career, or a personal situation—address it now. Waiting doesn’t make it easier; it only makes the fire hotter.

The Purpose of Pain

Pain isn’t random, and it isn’t cruel. It’s a test, a refinement process designed to polish you, reveal your true character, and align you with your purpose. Look at gold: it isn’t refined by freezing—it’s refined by fire. The same is true for diamonds, tectonic plates, and countless other elements of nature.

Pain works the same way. It brings out what’s already inside. If you’re willing to be refined, it will make you stronger. If you resist, it will reveal your flaws. Either way, the fire doesn’t lie.

For some, the fire exposes their evil nature—their unwillingness to change or grow. Without the pain, no one would know their true character. Pain forces the truth to the surface, whether it’s good or bad.

Stop Pretending

We’ve seen the lessons of pain in nature, in history, in stories, and even in movies. But people still pretend. They distract themselves, demand explanations, or blame others for their suffering. Why? Because it’s easier to throw a tantrum than to face the truth.

But here’s the reality: If you’re in front of the fire, it’s because you can handle it. Life doesn’t give you more than you can bear. Denying this fact doesn’t change it—it just wastes time. Instead of pretending, accept it. Navigate it. Stop lying to yourself.

The Universal Rule

Nothing in this world happens by chance. Everything is mathematically precise, and life rewards those who align with the truth. If you face the fire honestly, you’ll come out stronger, wiser, and more aligned with who you’re meant to be. But if you resist, delay, or pretend, you’ll only make the process harder for yourself.

So, the next time you’re standing in front of a fire, ask yourself: Do I want to grow, or do I want to resist? Then, with honesty and integrity, put your tail between your legs, walk through it, and come out refined. Because that’s the only way forward.

No One Is Suffering “More” Than You

Let me make one thing clear from the start: no one is suffering “more” than you. This isn’t about minimizing anyone’s pain or struggles. It’s about the simple truth that suffering is personal, tailored to each of us, and measured by what we can bear—not by what others see or assume.

We live in a world where people constantly compare, measure, and rank everything—even pain. The reality? Life doesn’t work that way. You don’t know the full picture, and you never will. Yet, people love to throw tantrums, demanding explanations for every difficulty they face as if the universe owes them a PowerPoint presentation on why their struggle exists.

A Cosmic Joke: The Limits of Human Understanding

We didn’t make ourselves. We didn’t create the trees, the oceans, or the sky. We didn’t decide how much oxygen the atmosphere should have or how far the sun should be from the Earth. We found ourselves here, existing in systems so precise that even the slightest deviation would mean chaos.

But somehow, we convince ourselves we’re running the show. We act as though we have the capacity to understand everything, from the cosmic to the microscopic, simply because we believe we can imagine it. Yet even imagination has limits. The moment we see something unfamiliar, we’re struck with awe or confusion—proof that there’s so much we don’t know.

Take the whale, for example. A creature so massive you’d expect it to devour something equally enormous. But what does it eat? Tiny kelp. That’s the universe reminding us we don’t know the full equation. What seems logical in your mind has nothing to do with the reality of how the world operates.

The Fallacy of Comparing Suffering

Now, let’s get back to suffering. People love to compare. They’ll say, “Oh, but those people just went through a tsunami, and I’m only dealing with a thunderstorm.” Or, “My struggles are worse than theirs.” And then they sit there, paralyzed, waiting for someone to validate their feelings.

Here’s the truth: suffering isn’t measured by appearances. It’s measured by what you can bear. One person’s challenges might look trivial to you, but to them, it’s their breaking point. Likewise, your struggles might seem insignificant to someone else, but they’re perfectly calibrated to your capacity.

No one bears more than they’re designed to handle. Life isn’t random chaos; it’s mathematical precision. Everyone has a role, just like every tree, every wave, and every grain of sand. Some trees might provide more shade or fruit than others, but that doesn’t diminish the value of the others.

Get over yourself and stick to your lane.

The Misguided Demand for Justification

Now, here’s where it gets laughable. People demand explanations for their suffering as if they’re owed a personal debriefing from the Creator of the universe. “Why is this happening to me? I need to know! Or else!”

Or else what?

Imagine God looking down at this tantrum, smiling, and saying, “That’s cute. Let’s see what your ‘or else’ is.” Because here’s the reality: you don’t call the shots. You can’t even see what’s inside your own body, let alone what’s behind the wall in front of you, yet you think you deserve a full explanation of the intricate systems of the universe? Who the hell do you think you are?

You wouldn’t go to someone’s house and demand to know why they chose that furniture or what they were thinking when they painted the walls. You wouldn’t even dare to ask why they’re wearing the outfit they have on. But here you are, as a guest in this universe, stomping your feet and demanding answers from the One who made it all.

It’s insanity.

The Science Obsession

Then there’s the glorification of science. Don’t get me wrong, science has its place, and observation and analysis are important. But people treat it like revelation, blindly believing anything prefaced with “There was research on this.”

You don’t know who did the research, how it was conducted, or the countless variables involved. All you know is the word “research,” and suddenly it’s gospel.

Here’s a hypothetical: say a study observes a million people and concludes that a specific diet works for them. Are you seriously going to tell the remaining seven billion people to follow that same diet? Are you out of your mind? Even identical twins have biological differences, yet you’re going to universalize the results of one study?

It’s not that science is useless—it’s that people lack the sense to understand what it’s for. It provides observations and insights, not absolute truths. Just because something works for one group doesn’t mean it’s a one-size-fits-all solution.

The Refining Fire of Suffering

Now, let’s talk about the purpose of suffering. People forget that pain is a form of refinement. It polishes and strengthens while bringing out what’s hidden, just like fire does with impurities and gold. We don’t refine by placing things in the freezer we put them in heat. The same goes for tectonic plates moving under heated pressure to shape the Earth.

Suffering serves to showcase the truth of a person’s character, especially when they refuse to change or grow. Without suffering, it would be difficult to discern those who are hypocrites or liars from those who are genuine and honest. External pressures, like suffering, merely reveal what already exists internally—whether that be goodness or corruption. This is one of many benefits and reasons.

But instead of accepting this reality, people throw tantrums. They want complete answers, validation, and a way to blame someone or something for their struggles. They fail to see that every struggle, every challenge, is part of a larger equation they’re not equipped to understand.

When people obsess over finding complete answers or seeking validation, they neglect the most important task: navigating the situation they’re in. Instead of focusing on the reality that their suffering is catered to their capacity to bear it, they waste energy on those tantrums and explanation demands that will never come. The suffering won’t vanish and the answers won’t appear. The better choice is to focus on navigating, seeking advice, and doing their absolute best—anything else is a waste of time and breath.

Even Hollywood gets this right. How many movies have you seen where characters face adversity, grow through it, and come out stronger on the other side or showcase their true nature? And what do people say as they leave the theater? “Wow, that was deep.” Then they go right back to their nonsense, missing the glaringly obvious mirror being held up to their lives.

Ending the Delusion

Let me be clear: everyone is suffering. Everyone is struggling in ways tailored to their capacity. No one is exempt, and no one is suffering more than you or less than you.

Stop pretending you deserve explanations. Stop demanding that the universe pacify your emotions. You are a slave in this world, just like the trees, the sun, and the animals. Do you see the sun protesting its schedule or the moon complaining about working the night shift? No. They stay in their lanes, fulfilling their roles without complaint. We have a small luxury of complaint, but you know when you’re overdoing it, don’t pretend.

So put your tail between your legs, accept your place, and move forward. Life is about balance. It’s not about having all the answers—it’s about doing your best with what you’re given.

Good grief and good riddance to the nonsense.

What Makes A Liar

In the delicate balance of leadership and life, one truth stands above all others: lying and truth are binary. A person is either truthful or a liar. There is no middle ground, no part-time honesty, and no “gray areas” of integrity.

A common mistake many make is treating lies as situational or harmless. But every lie—no matter how small—ripples outward, affecting not only the liar but the systems, relationships, and trust that bind everything together. This mistake can cost far more than we can afford.

The Surrendering Officer: A Case Study

Picture this: a high-ranking officer from the enemy’s side crosses into your territory during wartime, claiming they’ve “seen the error of their ways.” They profess loyalty to your cause, offer insights into enemy operations, and appear sincere. What do you do?

A foolish leader would celebrate the supposed victory, welcome the officer with open arms, and immediately start extracting secrets. After all, isn’t this a lucky break? A defecting officer with insider knowledge?

But let’s consider the reality. This individual has already displayed disloyalty—an abandonment of their initial allegiance. The question is not whether they’ve changed sides but whether they can be trusted at all in anything.

The wise course of action is clear: jail them.

Not as a punishment but as a precaution. They’ve proven themselves guilty by their prior actions, and innocence must be earned. Why? Because leadership is not a game of hope or assumptions—it’s a calculated balance of risks and rewards. Trusting a liar, even one claiming remorse is gambling with your operation, your people, and your future.

If this surrendering officer was truthful and wise, they would have either dismantled the harm they believed to have caused from within their own lines or exited the scene entirely, not joining either side, ready to accept any consequence of their actions prior and moving forward.

The Antithesis of Precision

Truth and lies are not just moral concepts—they are rooted in mathematics. Everything in the universe operates with precision, from the orbit of the planets to the structure of the human body. A slight imbalance in oxygen levels, the distance of the sun, or the stability of a bridge can create catastrophic consequences.

Lies disrupt this order. They introduce chaos into a system that demands alignment. A liar cannot operate within the framework of truth because their very existence bends and fractures the structure of reality.

Allowing a liar into your circle means inviting instability.

A leader’s decisions are not made in isolation—they affect people, organizations, and systems far beyond what the eye can see. The liar’s presence, even in seemingly minor roles, undermines this effect, turning it into a wave of uncertainty that can drown everything that’s been built.

The Binary Nature of Lies

Let’s address a common misconception: that people can lie “sometimes” and still be trusted “most of the time.” This is false.

Lying is a defining trait, not an occasional mistake. If someone lies—even about something as seemingly trivial as tossing a candy wrapper (littering) or urinating in a stream (when they know others use the water for swimming, drinking, etc.)—they reveal a willingness to compromise integrity.

And here’s the key: if they lie about something ‘small,’ they’ll lie about anything big.

Can you imagine this same individual advising you on a decision that affects your life? Could you gamble on their honesty when their track record shows a willingness to bend the truth? Would you trust someone to safeguard finances or strategic plans when they’ve proven they cannot even honor the basic principles of honesty?

You wouldn’t—and you shouldn’t.

Emotional Ties

Some people excuse liars because of false emotional ties.

Leadership isn’t about emotional ties or sentimental justifications—it’s about making decisions that protect and sustain the integrity of your mission. Excuses like “I’ve known them my whole life,” “They’re married to my sibling,” or “My mentor told me to stick by them” hold no weight. None of these ‘excuses’ matter when the integrity of leadership and the lives of others are at stake.

It’s not about your feelings. It’s not about protecting emotional bonds. The warning signs are always there, just as problems in a romantic relationship often knock at the door long before the collapse. Ignoring these signs in the name of sentimentality is negligence.

Yet, many leaders have and continue to fail because they put liars in their circle due to misplaced loyalties.

No one in your circle can be a liar, not even the janitor. Why do you think some revaluations begin with someone with as simple a job as a janitor? Reality never acts fake.

Pressure Reveals the Truth

Life is a series of problems and solutions. Problems will arise whether anyone likes it or not—just as surely as hunger returns after a meal or a shower becomes necessary after getting clean.

Life demands balance, and the role of a leader is to maintain that balance, regardless of circumstances.

But when pressure arrives—and it always does—it forces what’s inside a person to come out. No amount of pretending or hiding can withstand the weight of reality. If a person is a liar at their core, that truth will surface when the stakes are highest and leadership cannot gamble with such inevitability.

When Lying Is Necessary

Let’s be clear: there are rare moments when lying is not only permissible but necessary. Life is about constantly balancing the scales. The key is to ensure that the good always outweighs the bad.

For example:

• In War: Military deception is a necessity. You don’t walk into an enemy’s camp and reveal your strategies in the name of honesty. Deceiving the enemy protects lives and ensures success. War itself is built on deception (war is deception), and in this context, lying is not a compromise—it’s a duty.

• To Prevent Greater Harm: If two groups are on the brink of conflict and their hostility threatens widespread damage, it may be necessary to use deception to bring them together. Telling each side, “The other admires and values you,” may not be entirely truthful, but the good of preventing chaos outweighs the harm of the lie.

• In Marriage: Lying in a marriage is not about betrayal but about fostering peace and love when the truth is senseless. If a spouse asks for an opinion on something trivial, like their appearance, and let’s say the truth serves no purpose other than diminishing their confidence, offering a kind lie that uplifts the relationship is a better choice.

In each of these cases, the lie serves a greater purpose, maintaining balance and minimizing harm. This is a recognition of the complex, mathematical nature of life’s decisions.

The Scale of Integrity

This universe is a scale. Every action, whether by nature, people, or animals, tips the balance. A person who lies in small matters—like littering or hiding personal insecurities—cannot be trusted in larger ones. Imagine the irony of someone lying to themselves about an insecurity of theirs…do you seriously think that person would blink an eye when it comes to lying to you? You must be joking with me. Their lack of accountability in minor things reveals a deeper inability to withstand the weight of responsibility.

Trust isn’t built on perfection but on consistency. If a person consistently tells the truth, even their rare mistakes are understood as human error, not a lack of integrity. But when someone lies, even occasionally, they become a gamble—one that no wise person will ever take.

Ending it

Your role is already difficult as it is. Don’t make it worse for yourself by placing people around you whose honesty needs constant babysitting, which makes you carry more weight than you need to and, in turn, affects your decision-making and your personal life. Leaders are simply meant to lead; nothing more, nothing less.

Living Beyond the Immediate: Grace, Foresight, and the Bigger Picture

Let’s start with a simple observation: we’re living in a world of immediacy. Everything is instant—water flows with the twist of a faucet, heat comes on with the turn of a knob, and meals are ready with the click of a button. We’ve built a society where convenience is king, but somewhere along the way, we lost something vital: the ability to think beyond the here and now.

Take the act of littering. How many times have you seen someone toss a candy wrapper on the ground? And if you asked them why, the response would probably be, “It’s just a wrapper.” Just a wrapper. But here’s the thing—they’re not thinking beyond their single action. Now imagine if everyone in that neighborhood did the same thing. What would the sidewalk look like? Would they even be able to walk on it? Of course not. Yet, this level of foresight is absent in their decision-making because they’re trapped in the immediate.

What’s even more ridiculous is the amount of time, money, and effort we have to waste on reminders—signs, fines, campaigns—all to get people to do what should be common sense. And even then, they’ll wait until no one is looking to toss the wrapper anyway. Why? Because we’ve cultivated a mindset of “here first, right now,” with no regard for the long-term impact on ourselves, let alone anyone or anything else.

But this isn’t just about littering. It’s a symptom of a much deeper issue: a lack of grace, dignity, and foresight in how people live their lives.

Grace and Foresight in Action

Let me paint a different picture for you. I was recently watching an older version of Cinderella, and there’s this scene that stayed with me. The mother is clearly dying—coughing, blood at the corners of her mouth—and she knows her time is running out. Instead of panicking, she uses her final moments to give her daughter the advice she believes will guide her for the rest of her life.

Now, let’s look at the daughter. She doesn’t scream or fall apart. She listens, fully and completely, understanding the gravity of the moment. When her mother finishes speaking, she calmly calls for her father to help get her mother into the carriage. There’s grace in her actions, dignity in how she carries herself, and foresight in how she processes the situation.

Compare that to what would happen today. The moment someone saw the blood, they’d start screaming, “Oh my God!” They wouldn’t even hear the advice because they’d be too busy panicking. And what would that accomplish? Would it make the carriage go faster? Heal the mother? No, it would just add to the chaos and stress of an already painful situation.

Grace isn’t just about staying calm. It’s about having the foresight to see the bigger picture and the composure to act in a way that uplifts rather than burdens the moment. And it’s not limited to fairy tales. It’s something that used to be more common in how people lived their lives.

The Cost of Living Without Grace

This lack of grace and foresight is why so many people today find themselves in situations they regret. Think about it: how often do you see someone on YouTube talking about their regrets? Maybe they’re covered in tattoos they now wish they hadn’t gotten, or they’re reflecting on reckless decisions they made in relationships. But instead of simply admitting, “I made a mistake,” they try to frame it as some grand lesson for humanity.

They form communities, forums, and support groups, not to genuinely heal or move forward, but to validate the nonsense they’ve done. “Let’s have a discussion,” they say, as if that changes the fact that they sold themselves short. It’s not about discussing or justifying the mistake. It’s about recognizing it, owning it, and moving forward with the clarity to never repeat it.

But here’s the problem: admitting you were wrong requires a level of humility and foresight that many people today simply don’t have. They’re too busy trying to save face or shift blame, saying things like, “This is my life, and I don’t regret it,” even though their entire demeanor screams otherwise.

The Weight of Character

Here’s the truth people don’t want to face: everything you do—every choice, every action—is building or chipping away at the respect others have for you. And no, I’m not talking about superficial respect, the kind that’s tied to money or status. I’m talking about the deep, unshakable respect that comes from character.

Let’s say there’s someone working one of the most difficult, unglamorous jobs imaginable—cleaning up waste. If they carry themselves with dignity, composure, and grace, people will respect them. They’ll walk past and feel admiration for how this person moves through the world, regardless of their job.

Now take someone who’s in a high-powered position but lacks integrity. They’ve spent years cutting corners, lying, and living recklessly. Sure, they might have money and influence, but when push comes to shove, they have no weight. People might smile to their face, but behind closed doors, they’ll avoid them. And when it comes time to make real decisions, no one will trust them.

Why? Because they’ve chipped away at their character bit by bit, until there’s nothing left.

Why Money and Power Don’t Fix Character

Here’s another thing people don’t realize: money, power, and influence don’t change who you are. They only amplify what was already there.

I remember back in high school, during a discussion about money. The teacher brought up the idea that money is the root of all evil, and I had to stop her right there. “Money isn’t evil,” I told her. “Money just gives people the chance to show who they really are.”

Think about it. If someone has greed, selfishness, or corruption in them, money will bring it out. But if someone has generosity, wisdom, and integrity, money will amplify that instead. The money itself isn’t the problem. It’s just a magnifier.

The same goes for power. A position of authority doesn’t make someone corrupt—it reveals their corruption. That’s why people who lack integrity can never truly hide it. No matter how much they try to cover it up with wealth or status, the truth always screams through.

And here’s the kicker: even they know it. Walk into a room, and you can sense the ones who are weighed down by their lies and nonsense. They’re intimidated before you even say a word, because deep down, they know the truth about themselves.

The Ripple Effect of a Lack of Grace

But this isn’t just about individual character. The ripple effects of living without grace and foresight spread far and wide, affecting everything from families to communities to entire societies.

Take something as simple as ignoring a “Don’t Litter” sign. People think, “It’s just one wrapper. What’s the big deal?” But the big deal is this: when everyone thinks like that, it creates chaos. Sidewalks become unwalkable. Cities spend millions on cleanup efforts. Resources that could have gone to something meaningful are wasted on fixing what should never have been broken in the first place.

And it doesn’t stop there. This same mindset spills into relationships, workplaces, and decision-making at every level. People act without thinking of the consequences, and then when things fall apart, they look for someone else to blame.

But the reality is, every action you take is a reflection of who you are. And if you lack the grace, composure, and foresight to think beyond yourself, the consequences will catch up with you—every single time.

The Beauty of Living Above the Immediate

Here’s the part most people miss: living with grace and foresight isn’t just about avoiding mistakes. It’s about unlocking a deeper, richer way of being.

When you move through the world with composure, people notice. They feel the weight of your presence. Not because you’re loud or flashy, but because there’s something undeniable about the way you carry yourself.

It’s the kind of presence that doesn’t need validation or explanation. It speaks for itself.

And it’s not just about how others see you—it’s about how you see yourself. When you live with grace, you’re not weighed down by the nonsense and chaos that comes from acting without thought. You’re free. Free to focus on what matters, free to build something meaningful, and free to live in a way that aligns with your highest self.

Ending it

We’ve lost so much of this in today’s world. The grace, the dignity, the ability to think beyond the immediate—they’re rare qualities now, but they don’t have to be.

It starts with one simple decision: to live with intention. To stop and think before you act. To consider not just how your choices affect you in the moment, but how they ripple out into the world.

Because here’s the truth: the world doesn’t need more people chasing the immediate. It needs people who understand the beauty of living beyond it.